Two amazing women loving a man differently and unconditionally. One is who gave birth to him and other is who is born for him. The ultimate sufferer will surely be a man, because he cannot judge both of them. It is very clear that of all relationships, the one between mother -in -law and daughter in law is very delicate and week one. Sometimes where a big war arises and secret cold wars also takes place.
What Mother- in- law thinks about Daughter- in -law:
She married my son. She has stolen someone who is very special and precious to me, where i have put a lot of efforts to give birth, send him school, raised him to grow better. After marriage it really creates some jealousy in her mind regarding her son, because some other women has come to take attention of her son. If a son is born mother- in- law also born. Society creates a negative feeling that today is your son, but tomorrow your daughter- in -law will come and steal him. Here the story begins.
What Daughter-in -law thinks about Mother-in -law:
I have left entire my family and 25 years of life and entered in to new world for sake of husband, so he must give first priority to me in all matters. She may start feeling jealous if her husband gives importance to his mother. As soon as a girl born, daughter-in-law also born because society spreads negativity. For example people asks for a girl to learn how to cook and to keep clean and tell that if not tomorrow your mother-in-law comes and controls you. Here the story begins.
No doubt, mother is important and great and a wife comes in to family because of son. Now he is responsible for her. As mother-in-law is matured and experienced she has to take responsibility to guide her daughter-in-law instead of hating her.
How to deal with mother-in-law:
1. Talk openly with your mother-in-law:
Just sit by her side and talk directly what she is expecting from you and what are your expectations on her. Make a healthy conversations in talking to her. Before talking anything think of her back ground that where she is coming from. Try to tell openly what all your hobbies and desires to her with out playing any hide and seek games.
2. Kill with affection:
The weapon we can use to deal with mother-in-law is affection, kindness and love even though if she is jealous on you. For any relationship it takes a years to build so be patient. If not try to be happy in front of people who hate you it really kills them inside.
3. Tell your mother-in-law when she stepped your boundaries:
Speak to your mother-in-law if she crossed or overstepped your boundaries. She may be mother to your husband, but there are certain limits clearly specify that to her.
4. Understand the nature of mother-in-law and plan accordingly:
Mothers-in-law are of different types. Some of them are jealous and some other thinks that they know everything and some really try to control her daughter-in-law and some other always judges you and show of your mistakes in presence of her son. Understanding their nature is primary thing and accordingly you can give the best medicine.
How to deal with Daughter-in-law:
1. Recognize and prioritize her role in your family:
Today’s mother-in-law is once a daughter-in-law. So, recognize her role in bringing upon your grand children and support her. If you think you are queen to family then accept her as a princess.
2. Always keep in mind the generation gap between you and your daughter-in-law:
First try to avoid controlling from both the ends. Dont try to impose rules instead handle with care. Also while telling anything to your daughter-in-law keep in mind the generation gap between you and daughter-in-law and respect her own style of living.
3. Respect your son’s choice:
If any fight or arguments occurs between you and daughter-in-law keep in mind one thing. she is the women who is loved by your son and they must live together for a life long. so, whatever it may be you should not tell a word against her to yous son. It ruins their relationship.
4. Accept her weakness and support her opinions in family matters:
No one is perfect in the world. Everyone has their own flaws and strengths. A good mother-in-law need to accept flaws and should respect her opinions in family matters.
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Finally you need to be in a relationship till the end. Whomever or whatever it is you are her mother-in-law and she is your daughter-in-law. If possible try to remove those laws. A mother and a daughter relationship, yes it is good. we must practice some compromise, acceptance, sacrifices and some patience while dealing from both the ends. If both the laws are happy then the only man loving by them will be happy. Its simple logic but, many of us fails in performing so.